About a year ago, I reunited with a high school friend of mine who found me on myspace through a friend. At first I was a little repulsed because it was him...the guy who teased my friends and I in high school. That was nearly seven years ago. We messaged each other a few times and exchanged numbers and we talked through the night, but I was reluctant in going further with him. I mean, he hangs out with my ex-crush whom I made of fool of myself in front of him. I thought that this guy came back to me to ruin my life of course. I guess I was wrong. He convinced me to give him a chance and perhaps was the best decision I have made in my entire life. I have cared and loved no other man in my entire life. He is the best guy a girl could hope for. I have always said I wanted to date a mechanic so that I could have my dream car. I also wanted a handyman who could save me butt loads around the house. Yes, he was the one. My mother doesn't like him of course because apparently to her, he's not good enough for me because he doesn't have a bachelor's degree. Thats where it all begins I suppose.
My mom is pretty young. She has always told me that menopause starts around late 30's to 40's in our family. Therefore if we wanted kids, we better have them early on. She is having all the symptoms a woman on menopause can have: weight gain, hot flashes, mood swings, short temper, low patience, depressed. She is just out of control sometimes and then the next second, she is fine again. My head hurts trying to catch up with her mood swings. I'm jumping ahead of myself, let me start with the source.
My dad is a very hard working man. He works one main job and several side jobs to make his ends meet. While he travels far for work, he also smokes. The little money he gets obviously goes to gas and cigarettes. He sometimes even gives me some money on the side without my mom's knowledge. I love my dad very much and maybe because he is the less strict parent but also because he loves me very much too.
So back to my mom. She takes her anger out on my dad a lot. Because she is having all these symptoms, its expelled upon my dad and they argue so much now. My mom talks about committing suicide and divorce and leaving. Its hard hearing that from a mom because of the many things I enjoyed talking to her about, this was by far my least favorite. Sometimes, I even wanna run away from it all, but what could that do? It wouldn't change how she feels nor would things get any better. I'm debating if I should feel guilty that I am leaning towards my dad's side because my mom is just being so angry towards him. Unless he was unfaithful or something, I don't see any reason to be so angry towards him. Yes he can't bring home that much money but at least he can cover himself. And when you two took your wedding vows, did you not promise to take care of each other and make it through the goods and the bads? She says she couldn't stand being the rock under this family anymore and that she is tired. She says she thinks for other people but other people never think for her. She says no one cares for her. When she said those words, I really think she needs meds. She is acting like my grandmother is right now. They act bitter and thinks the world doesn't care about them. And my grandmother controls her emotions with meds. Perhaps thats what my mom needs. She admits it too but to take action for it is much harder than said.
I'm not having too much luck with jobs right now. I'm gone to a few interviews but not many have gone in my favor just yet. And this puts some stress on me because it makes me feel useless and its like I can't help my family right now. I feel like such a bum.
It is our one year anniversary this coming weekend. The mister and I plan to go to The Melting Pot because it is just so darn romantic there. What we will do during the day is a mystery to us but we'll see.
My mom is pretty young. She has always told me that menopause starts around late 30's to 40's in our family. Therefore if we wanted kids, we better have them early on. She is having all the symptoms a woman on menopause can have: weight gain, hot flashes, mood swings, short temper, low patience, depressed. She is just out of control sometimes and then the next second, she is fine again. My head hurts trying to catch up with her mood swings. I'm jumping ahead of myself, let me start with the source.
My dad is a very hard working man. He works one main job and several side jobs to make his ends meet. While he travels far for work, he also smokes. The little money he gets obviously goes to gas and cigarettes. He sometimes even gives me some money on the side without my mom's knowledge. I love my dad very much and maybe because he is the less strict parent but also because he loves me very much too.
So back to my mom. She takes her anger out on my dad a lot. Because she is having all these symptoms, its expelled upon my dad and they argue so much now. My mom talks about committing suicide and divorce and leaving. Its hard hearing that from a mom because of the many things I enjoyed talking to her about, this was by far my least favorite. Sometimes, I even wanna run away from it all, but what could that do? It wouldn't change how she feels nor would things get any better. I'm debating if I should feel guilty that I am leaning towards my dad's side because my mom is just being so angry towards him. Unless he was unfaithful or something, I don't see any reason to be so angry towards him. Yes he can't bring home that much money but at least he can cover himself. And when you two took your wedding vows, did you not promise to take care of each other and make it through the goods and the bads? She says she couldn't stand being the rock under this family anymore and that she is tired. She says she thinks for other people but other people never think for her. She says no one cares for her. When she said those words, I really think she needs meds. She is acting like my grandmother is right now. They act bitter and thinks the world doesn't care about them. And my grandmother controls her emotions with meds. Perhaps thats what my mom needs. She admits it too but to take action for it is much harder than said.
I'm not having too much luck with jobs right now. I'm gone to a few interviews but not many have gone in my favor just yet. And this puts some stress on me because it makes me feel useless and its like I can't help my family right now. I feel like such a bum.
It is our one year anniversary this coming weekend. The mister and I plan to go to The Melting Pot because it is just so darn romantic there. What we will do during the day is a mystery to us but we'll see.
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